Finding a Mentor and a Purpose

(Sunday, July 3, 2005, 12:42 a.m.)

copied from Myspace blog

I have been lucky in some areas of my life to be graced with a good mentor: somebody who is good at what I'm interested in doing, able to explain it well, and patient enough to show me the ropes, answer my unending questions, and even provide some encouragement when I sometimes feel like chucking it all.

In some cases, you can just pick up a book on a subject, read and carefully analyze the material, maybe tinker and practice for a long while with applying the concepts, and you can learn that subject and feel good about the results. However, with so many things in life, procedural learning is a lot more important than declarative/semantic learning, and these tend to be areas where a kind mentor would be very helpful. (They are also areas where I tend to fall on my face, at least if other people are involved.)

In career-related issues, I think I've had a few lucky breaks with finding a good mentor. In other areas of life, I've not been so lucky... and oh how much less my life seems because of it. I feel that I'm not where I should be in life right now, and I don't know if I should blame myself or genuine bad luck at not having found the right guide/s or role model/s.

Sometimes I think I need a life-mentor. Many people turn to religion to provide what I lack, but I cannot take this route because my unbelief seems too well-founded. Some people turn to becoming a part of a clique, but I have yet to find any clique that I feel at ease in. Some people turn to a cause, but I'm still looking for a worthwhile cause I can resonate with.

I do have a plan and a direction in my life, a default course I've set for myself, but sometimes it seems like so much moonshine, and I have to admit that the truth is I'm still waiting for the pieces of the puzzle to fall into place that will actually make my life meaningful and worthwhile.

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